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This is a bit of an unusual post. If you follow me on Instagram you know i have been asking questions. Questions that matter. That put sense to life, what is primary, what is secondary. Been up with reading, thinking, asking, finding the what and why's. Basically giving to my true calling ever since i was a child. Wisdom. I'll do a full post on it very soon. But today i am sharing some of my thoughts gained after much debate. Shared on instagram but never here. Some of it is shared on instagram story and present as story highlight on my feed and some are shared via instagram posts but i always use the hashtag #brainheartwork to share and here they are from a couple of months. I call it brain heart work because the thoughts are a product of both mind and heart, haha!!!

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1. Things don't work out, people don't work out but whatever is meant for our greatest good 100% works out, the truth of this universe. The dots connect always just sometimes in hindsight.
2. Everyone other that you is a second. Focus on the first, You. Your maximum love and affection should be for yourself and same ways your strongest criticism too. Caress yourself and also impress yourself and truly be your favourite person.
3. Its only worth looking at ourselves, what we are and what we are doing and improve that because none of us are vice / fault free.
4. Surround yourself with real kind and inspiring people because the people around us shape us in more ways than what our conscious self knows, got to be careful.
5. There is no randomness in this world, everything is planned to the T. So if you are running late or plans change or whatever there is reason behind. Sometimes it becomes obvious then and there, sometimes late and there is also a chance that you might never know.
6. Love me or love me not, no value. Love yourself, utmost value.
7. Everything in the world is ok, the problem is we are not ok with it. 
8. Your best intentions, actions and emotions are only good for the right person and always short for the wrong person. 

You can now already see me sharing my thoughts here on topics that matter to me and i can't be more excited to tell you that there will more posts on thoughts and wisdom here on the blog. 

Love
Chichi

BRAIN HEART WORK


This is a bit of an unusual post. If you follow me on Instagram you know i have been asking questions. Questions that matter. That put sense to life, what is primary, what is secondary. Been up with reading, thinking, asking, finding the what and why's. Basically giving to my true calling ever since i was a child. Wisdom. I'll do a full post on it very soon. But today i am sharing some of my thoughts gained after much debate. Shared on instagram but never here. Some of it is shared on instagram story and present as story highlight on my feed and some are shared via instagram posts but i always use the hashtag #brainheartwork to share and here they are from a couple of months. I call it brain heart work because the thoughts are a product of both mind and heart, haha!!!

brain heart work, the monk mindset, st pauls cathedral, wisdom viral, philosophy modern,

1. Things don't work out, people don't work out but whatever is meant for our greatest good 100% works out, the truth of this universe. The dots connect always just sometimes in hindsight.
2. Everyone other that you is a second. Focus on the first, You. Your maximum love and affection should be for yourself and same ways your strongest criticism too. Caress yourself and also impress yourself and truly be your favourite person.
3. Its only worth looking at ourselves, what we are and what we are doing and improve that because none of us are vice / fault free.
4. Surround yourself with real kind and inspiring people because the people around us shape us in more ways than what our conscious self knows, got to be careful.
5. There is no randomness in this world, everything is planned to the T. So if you are running late or plans change or whatever there is reason behind. Sometimes it becomes obvious then and there, sometimes late and there is also a chance that you might never know.
6. Love me or love me not, no value. Love yourself, utmost value.
7. Everything in the world is ok, the problem is we are not ok with it. 
8. Your best intentions, actions and emotions are only good for the right person and always short for the wrong person. 

You can now already see me sharing my thoughts here on topics that matter to me and i can't be more excited to tell you that there will more posts on thoughts and wisdom here on the blog. 

Love
Chichi



I was going to write about my trials with success and something happened in the house that changed the topic of the post to why emotional honesty is important. Honesty not just to the world but also to self. They say it shouldn’t show from my demeanor if i am angry or sad. You must have a pleasant face and body language no matter how horrible you feel from inside. Your sufferings are yours and thats where they should be with you. Isn’t that the most ridiculous of things!!! Isn’t that the biggest lie isn’t that just preaching pretence. Shouldn’t every element of my body send the exact message into the world that it truly feels. 

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I don’t want to give a flying fcuk what people think about me, oh she is upset, oh she is cheerful, oh she didn’t like this. Who cares what they think and certainly certainly not want to give them the illusion of my happiness or sadness which i do not experience. And above all pretence. Its a lie. The problem with this kind of show is that although it starts with others, we begin to lie to ourselves and start hiding our real emotions which in turn leads to hollowness and diseases of heart and mind. 

Sometimes people walk up to you and ask you why you look sad or elated or worried. It might be out of concern, because probably they hate to see you in  bad mood. but often, it’s also about their expectations out of you in a particular environment. I just said sad it can also be happiness at a time when situation demands to be sad. The cause of the happiness could be anything maybe i found some light inside me even in a sad situation and that has made me happy. But showing that happiness to the world means being judged badly. But seriously why should i care for that judgement it is of no consequence. 

I understand sometimes we have to hide our true feelings. For e.g a mother might have a really bad day but has to be cheerful when she meets her child because she wouldn’t want the child to get sad seeing her troubled. But even there a check has to come, the number of times, the extent and also some education to the child to prepare her for the realities of life. And same goes to all relationships to be honest.

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why emotional honesty is important, uk blog, london blog, indian blog, pink, pink corduroy trouser, effortless chic, british style, belt on waist, spring 2018, trend ss18,

What i wore - Trousers, Shirt - Zara , Belt - Asos, Slides - Topshop 

I think of it as honesty, wrong info to the world about my emotional state will be a lie just like i wouldn’t want to make wordly and actly lies i wouldn’t want an emotional lie. That is my answer to whosoever tells me to check my expression my body language my demeanor. And i urge each one of us to take this with seriousness, its not society’s expectation that your emotions have to live up to. you can feel what you are feeling and it is great if that shows on your face and through your actions. Just proves that you value truth, you care for self love and you haven’t let the ways of the world override your ways. 

I would love to hear your thoughts on emotional honesty. Thank you for stopping by, see you with my next.

Love

Chichi

Why emotional honesty is important



I was going to write about my trials with success and something happened in the house that changed the topic of the post to why emotional honesty is important. Honesty not just to the world but also to self. They say it shouldn’t show from my demeanor if i am angry or sad. You must have a pleasant face and body language no matter how horrible you feel from inside. Your sufferings are yours and thats where they should be with you. Isn’t that the most ridiculous of things!!! Isn’t that the biggest lie isn’t that just preaching pretence. Shouldn’t every element of my body send the exact message into the world that it truly feels. 

why emotional honesty is important, uk blog, london blog, indian blog, pink, pink corduroy trouser, effortless chic, british style, belt on waist, spring 2018, trend ss18,

I don’t want to give a flying fcuk what people think about me, oh she is upset, oh she is cheerful, oh she didn’t like this. Who cares what they think and certainly certainly not want to give them the illusion of my happiness or sadness which i do not experience. And above all pretence. Its a lie. The problem with this kind of show is that although it starts with others, we begin to lie to ourselves and start hiding our real emotions which in turn leads to hollowness and diseases of heart and mind. 

Sometimes people walk up to you and ask you why you look sad or elated or worried. It might be out of concern, because probably they hate to see you in  bad mood. but often, it’s also about their expectations out of you in a particular environment. I just said sad it can also be happiness at a time when situation demands to be sad. The cause of the happiness could be anything maybe i found some light inside me even in a sad situation and that has made me happy. But showing that happiness to the world means being judged badly. But seriously why should i care for that judgement it is of no consequence. 

I understand sometimes we have to hide our true feelings. For e.g a mother might have a really bad day but has to be cheerful when she meets her child because she wouldn’t want the child to get sad seeing her troubled. But even there a check has to come, the number of times, the extent and also some education to the child to prepare her for the realities of life. And same goes to all relationships to be honest.

why emotional honesty is important, uk blog, london blog, indian blog, pink, pink corduroy trouser, effortless chic, british style, belt on waist, spring 2018, trend ss18,

why emotional honesty is important, uk blog, london blog, indian blog, pink, pink corduroy trouser, effortless chic, british style, belt on waist, spring 2018, trend ss18,

why emotional honesty is important, uk blog, london blog, indian blog, pink, pink corduroy trouser, effortless chic, british style, belt on waist, spring 2018, trend ss18,

why emotional honesty is important, uk blog, london blog, indian blog, pink, pink corduroy trouser, effortless chic, british style, belt on waist, spring 2018, trend ss18,

why emotional honesty is important, uk blog, london blog, indian blog, pink, pink corduroy trouser, effortless chic, british style, belt on waist, spring 2018, trend ss18,

why emotional honesty is important, uk blog, london blog, indian blog, pink, pink corduroy trouser, effortless chic, british style, belt on waist, spring 2018, trend ss18,

What i wore - Trousers, Shirt - Zara , Belt - Asos, Slides - Topshop 

I think of it as honesty, wrong info to the world about my emotional state will be a lie just like i wouldn’t want to make wordly and actly lies i wouldn’t want an emotional lie. That is my answer to whosoever tells me to check my expression my body language my demeanor. And i urge each one of us to take this with seriousness, its not society’s expectation that your emotions have to live up to. you can feel what you are feeling and it is great if that shows on your face and through your actions. Just proves that you value truth, you care for self love and you haven’t let the ways of the world override your ways. 

I would love to hear your thoughts on emotional honesty. Thank you for stopping by, see you with my next.

Love

Chichi

I am one for celebrations so i always look forward to festivals and holidays but i realize they can be a  hard time for people with any level of grief or sadness. I think all of us have or do just different  levels and times. Could be breakup, or death or finance or loneliness or work or any sort of loss. Its not always glittery and sparkly and warm and cheerful. You want to be left alone and all the merry making to not be banged on your face, like literally. The decorations and festive cheer act more as reminders of the grief than anything else. Ah and social media overflowing with warmth to the point of disturbing.  I mean the content is just so sickly sweet. And sometimes its nothing specific or wrong but you just want to keep low but the constant reminders 'x no of days left for diwali or christmas or eid' or whatever that is!!! 'have you decided what you are wearing?' 'what are you shopping for xyz blah blah blah',  won't leave you. The traditions bite. Consumerism at its peak, i mean people spending more than they would ever earn in the next two months, its ridiculous.  And then come the falsehoods of people acting and going far beyond their own happiness, its never 24x7 joy after all. 


If you are going through any form of stress and not in the mood do everything to protect yourself. Like staying away from social media or whatever that adds to your stress. Be open just say you are not in the mood or you don't want to. Don't think just because it is some festival you owe it to it or anyone to celebrate or do something. 
And for others be mindful of what you are saying, doing and putting up around festivals. Your state of mind and level of well being might not be others so care and be real.  Sensitivity to others perspective is also a form of celebration after all!! Includes me, includes all of us. 






Thank you for stopping by, see you with my next.

Suggested posts - How to not be a shopaholic


Love Chichi

A letter to the celebrators of festivals and holidays


I am one for celebrations so i always look forward to festivals and holidays but i realize they can be a  hard time for people with any level of grief or sadness. I think all of us have or do just different  levels and times. Could be breakup, or death or finance or loneliness or work or any sort of loss. Its not always glittery and sparkly and warm and cheerful. You want to be left alone and all the merry making to not be banged on your face, like literally. The decorations and festive cheer act more as reminders of the grief than anything else. Ah and social media overflowing with warmth to the point of disturbing.  I mean the content is just so sickly sweet. And sometimes its nothing specific or wrong but you just want to keep low but the constant reminders 'x no of days left for diwali or christmas or eid' or whatever that is!!! 'have you decided what you are wearing?' 'what are you shopping for xyz blah blah blah',  won't leave you. The traditions bite. Consumerism at its peak, i mean people spending more than they would ever earn in the next two months, its ridiculous.  And then come the falsehoods of people acting and going far beyond their own happiness, its never 24x7 joy after all. 


If you are going through any form of stress and not in the mood do everything to protect yourself. Like staying away from social media or whatever that adds to your stress. Be open just say you are not in the mood or you don't want to. Don't think just because it is some festival you owe it to it or anyone to celebrate or do something. 
And for others be mindful of what you are saying, doing and putting up around festivals. Your state of mind and level of well being might not be others so care and be real.  Sensitivity to others perspective is also a form of celebration after all!! Includes me, includes all of us. 






Thank you for stopping by, see you with my next.

Suggested posts - How to not be a shopaholic


Love Chichi

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