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Why emotional honesty is important



I was going to write about my trials with success and something happened in the house that changed the topic of the post to why emotional honesty is important. Honesty not just to the world but also to self. They say it shouldn’t show from my demeanor if i am angry or sad. You must have a pleasant face and body language no matter how horrible you feel from inside. Your sufferings are yours and thats where they should be with you. Isn’t that the most ridiculous of things!!! Isn’t that the biggest lie isn’t that just preaching pretence. Shouldn’t every element of my body send the exact message into the world that it truly feels. 

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I don’t want to give a flying fcuk what people think about me, oh she is upset, oh she is cheerful, oh she didn’t like this. Who cares what they think and certainly certainly not want to give them the illusion of my happiness or sadness which i do not experience. And above all pretence. Its a lie. The problem with this kind of show is that although it starts with others, we begin to lie to ourselves and start hiding our real emotions which in turn leads to hollowness and diseases of heart and mind. 

Sometimes people walk up to you and ask you why you look sad or elated or worried. It might be out of concern, because probably they hate to see you in  bad mood. but often, it’s also about their expectations out of you in a particular environment. I just said sad it can also be happiness at a time when situation demands to be sad. The cause of the happiness could be anything maybe i found some light inside me even in a sad situation and that has made me happy. But showing that happiness to the world means being judged badly. But seriously why should i care for that judgement it is of no consequence. 

I understand sometimes we have to hide our true feelings. For e.g a mother might have a really bad day but has to be cheerful when she meets her child because she wouldn’t want the child to get sad seeing her troubled. But even there a check has to come, the number of times, the extent and also some education to the child to prepare her for the realities of life. And same goes to all relationships to be honest.

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What i wore - Trousers, Shirt - Zara , Belt - Asos, Slides - Topshop 

I think of it as honesty, wrong info to the world about my emotional state will be a lie just like i wouldn’t want to make wordly and actly lies i wouldn’t want an emotional lie. That is my answer to whosoever tells me to check my expression my body language my demeanor. And i urge each one of us to take this with seriousness, its not society’s expectation that your emotions have to live up to. you can feel what you are feeling and it is great if that shows on your face and through your actions. Just proves that you value truth, you care for self love and you haven’t let the ways of the world override your ways. 

I would love to hear your thoughts on emotional honesty. Thank you for stopping by, see you with my next.

Love

Chichi

22 comments

  1. I agree, we should all be open about our emtional honesty. The world would be a much better place if we were. People should always be honest about their emotions.

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  2. Beautifully written post & beautiful photos.

    Kara Aragon
    http://www.thekaragon.com

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  3. Love this post and the idea of just embracing our feelings, no matter what they are! Looking gorgeous babe and I love those Topshop slides!!

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  4. There are times when I try to mask my true feelings and put on a happy face because I am afraid that if I say what I truly feel, I might hurt someone else's feelings. I know this is not a healthy practice because I would be doing more harm to myself than good. I will start being true to myself and express my emotions.

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  5. I can definitely identify with this having had depression and anxiety for quite some time. Half of the reason why it took so long for me to be diagnosed is because I was always made to hide my true feelings because there was 'nothing wrong with me' and I was just being a drama queen when in actual fact I was struggling with mental health. I am definitely more honest about my struggles now and I agree with you that it is so important to show emotional honesty.

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  6. Love your pants! x

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  8. So in light of being honest here, I must say that I am a bit torn about being emotionally honest. Yes, I 500% believe that I should be honest with MYSELF. It's my own mental well-being at stake after all. But when it comes to others, I truly whole heartedly do not care a single speck what they think of me! I don't care if they think I'm upset, mad, elated, or anything in between. Take me or leave me lol. Thank you for this thought provoking post!

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  9. Honesty is always good. It only depends the placement we applied for it. As we grow, we manage to cover some of our feelings but always be honest to oneself will help us grow better.

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  10. Indeed, the society has such a huge impact on how we carry ourself. We tend depend our actions with what we think is sociall acceptable. I definitely agree with you dear, and I believe that the more you hide your feelings, the more they show. The more you deny them, the more they grow. Anyway, love your pants!

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  11. Hi Chichi! First of all, you look awesome! What you've written touched my heart. I really need to reflect more on how I can be more honest with my emotions.

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  12. I always try to be as honest as I can, if I’m having a bad day then I will usually say. Love your outfit!

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  13. I agree, we should be emotionally honest as possible. I hate people who do the opposite of what they're saying.

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  14. I understand the point of view you are making and totally agree that one should not put on an act to hide their feelings but it depends which situation it is. If you having a bad day at home its hardly fair to go to work and show you are upset with your body language and behavior to your unsuspecting colleagues or boss or your clients. However if you were feeling bad and was meeting up with your best friend you could vent and I guess that would be fine as your friend would be playing a supporting role. Honesty is good but in the right situation.

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  15. Being emotionally honest is important. There's no point in playing games with not saying what it is you actually want to say!

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  16. I think being emotionally honest is definitely essential within yourself! Great post

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  17. Love this! It's hard to care about what other's think about you at times but it's so much better when you don't! x

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  18. Oh yes emotional honesty is so important and can go a long way in helping us feel better. It can be hard, but worth it.

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  19. I keep my emotions to myself. I tried to be honest about how i feel but somehow i get more hurt. I don't care what people think of me but still I have to put an act to not let anyone see me in vulnerable position. but that is just me.

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  20. I know it is really crazy in the west where people have to be "happy" all the time. Where you feel you have to pretend to be in a good mood to make other people feel good when for most part they have little in life to complain about, except other people being too depressed. This was really when I live in Seattle. In NY people have more respect for the bad mood. Hahaha. But a first world problem for sure.

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  21. Often we are under the pressure of the society to show an untrue version of ourselves and that makes us emotionally dishonest.
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