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11 ways to stop comparison to others


Comparing ourselves or our lives to someone elses is the most ridiculous of things because it breaks the underlying rule of comparison i.e homogeneity. We are all unique and so are our lives and situations. There are not even two people in the world with the same body, mind, soul, upbringing, family, DNA, experiences, work, passions, etc etc. So why even bother comparing. It should not be even said that comparison kills all. Takes happiness away and puts frustration in its place. 

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Luckily for me i have not got into its trap. Well i wouldn’t say i have never compared myself to anyone but i haven’t been in that state for much time and have been able to zap myself out of it. What helps me? well here they are.

  1. Understand and consider it 100% true that we do not really know the struggles of other people. So if you find someone with the kind of life that fascinates you remember they have their own struggles and you don’t know how bad they are. There is a big chance that after you learn about the struggle you find your life better off. And you would rather choose your own life than the ‘fascinating life’ full of those struggles. 
  2. Don’t believe anything that you see on social media because people no matter how real they keep it post edited filtered versions of their life. You see those crazy travel pictures in Santorini and wish ah how good is her life. I wish i got to wear what she is wearing and travel to such stunning locales and also get a picture or two. But what you don’t know and see is that for those images one has to be waking up early even on what is supposed to be a holiday, get ready and leave with a few outfits to shoot in a bag ( its heavy). Without having breakfast. Fighting with your partner even, because he is not happy that you turn holidays into work. 
  3. We often are comparing our failures to peoples success. Highlight to back reel. Absurd isn’t it. 
  4. Keep the focus of your life on your self. So when you think, think about what you want to do, what life you want to live, what truly makes you happy, what keeps you inspired, etc. Do not take the focus on what others are doing with their lives. 
  5. Be grateful for the things and people you have in your life. The constant urge for better and better creates restlessness and triggers comparison. Being grateful will always keep you content and happy with what you have and give you inner peace. 
  6. There is nothing called universal perfect. Perfection is what we think is perfect and it does not hold for everyone. So if you really want to look at it you are a perfect person physically, mentally, emotionally. You have the perfect life, family, career, everything because there is no perfect in the world.
  7. All of us are unique with unique bodies, experiences and thoughts so be confident of yourself. Your uniqueness is your USP! Comparison will make you small, insecure and vulnerable and that is the energy that you will radiate. What a shame isn’t it. Be confident of your unique self and path and remember what is meant for your greatest good will never skip you. 
  8. Accept yourself. The most common comparison women do is comparing their beauty and their body with someone else’s. Remember what i said in point 6. You are just as beautiful and your body just as great as you think it is. In my teenage and most of my 20s i hated my belly fat. My definition of beauty was a girl with a thin waist and i looked at the tiniest waists of models and actreses and that made me feel even worse. So realization came and i accepted my body and trust me it has been the greatest stress relievers of my life. Lol even when i struggled in my mind with my belly fat there were people who told me my body was perfect to them, so you get my point!! If you feel you want to have a certain kind of a body first see the reason you want it. Is it in comparison to someone which should be shunned straight away or for positive reasons like for your health, strength etc.
  9. The only person you should compare yourself is with the person you were yesterday. So work on your shortcomings, work on the dream life, work on your goals with the aim of out performing your yesterday self and no one else. 
  10. Get inspired but don’t compare. Well there is a very thin line between the two. Often we start with inspiration but move to comparison. Just to spell out the difference inspiration motivates and leads you to pursue your goals in a healthy and positive way whereas comparison demotivates and even though sometimes makes us to pursue goals, does so in a negative way. You never feel content and happy with neither the process nor the achievement. 
  11. Surround yourself with people who clap at your success, inspire you, lift you higher, make you happy and see the greatness in you even when you don’t see it. They add to your well being and indirectly also prevent you from indulging in negative activities like comparison.

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What i wore - Trousers, Shoes, Top - Zara

I took these pictures at the stunning St. Aymes cafe London where i had wanted to visit ever since  Such a beautiful pretty cafe and i love their cupcakes!! And so instagrammable! Cant wait to go back.

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Love 
Chichi



10 comments

  1. Love red and pink combo. Love your pants!
    xx

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  2. Fantastic photos and a fabulous outfit! Hope to see you on my Fancy Friday linkup party!

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  3. Very wise post ;) I like number 2 ... it made me laugh as it's probably so true! Others are true as well of course! Be yourself!

    Nice outfit as well!

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  4. Beautiful as always! x

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  5. We know we shouldn’t compare but it is so easy to catch ourselves doing just that. Great tips here.

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  6. I think we girl's tend to do this alot comparing our-self with others . Everyone has uniqueness of there own so no need to compare. I loved your article a lot !

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  7. It really is a lovely cafe. And those are very important things to think about as far as a relationship with others. You only compare yourself to where you were, and not anyone else.

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  8. What a lovely read, and I couldn't agree more dear, especially at 5th. Sometimes, we're too fixated on the things that we want (and nice things we see from others) that we tend to oversee/forget the good things we already have. Anyway, I sooo love your outfit dear! Looks so cozy, comfy, and fab!

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

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  9. The failures to successes are so easy to do and I really liked reading that. I've never thought about it in that way before. Thanks for sharing these and I definitely agree with them.

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  10. I love this post! We always compare ourselves to others but social media is so fake at times and it’s like we have to constantly keep up with the other people.

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